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Why Mindset Is Critical in Successful Relationships

Whether you have a fixed or growth mindset affects the quality (and future) of your relationships. 

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Esther Perel: 'Fix the sex and your relationship will transform' | Life and style | The Guardian

Esther Perel’s breathtakingly frank therapy podcasts – Where should we begin – not only make for juicy listening, they’ve revitalised the stale private lives of millions. Miranda Sawyer listens to the psychotherapist

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Using Cellphone For Work At Home Can Damage Marriage, Both Spouses' Careers - Study Finds

Business should apparently never be mixed with pleasure -- if it involves your cellphone. A recent study finds that using a mobile device at home for work purposes not only causes strain on a marriage, but it can also be damaging to both spouses' work li

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What Does It Mean to Quantify Desirability?

Unpacking that new online-dating study on people looking for love with potential matches out of their league.

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When Your Sense of Self Includes Your Best Friend

A new study on one of the best challenges of close friendship: knowing where one of you ends and the other begins.

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Why People Cheat: Study Reveals 8 Common Factors Of Unfaithful Partners - Study Finds

It's a question most, if not all scorned spouses would love to know the answer to: "Why'd you cheat?" A recent study identified eight common motivators of people who are unfaithful to their romantic partners.

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10 Things Mental Health Therapists Wish Divorce Attorneys Understood | The Exhausted Woman

After 15 years of a tumultuous marriage, Mario decided to divorce his wife. He had enough. His wife Vanessa cheated on him several times, repeatedly lied, her

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The Surprising Keys to a Long-Lasting Relationship | Psychology Today

If you could read into the future of your relationship, what might you predict? New research shows the surprising role of conflict in predicting your relationship's longevity.

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This Relationship Tip Is Extra Helpful When You’re Stressed

Advice to help yourself resolve arguments, avoid fights before they start, and get better at handling conflict – with your partner, your family, or your friends.

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How Can I Be Me While You’re Being You? | Psychology Today

Just about all lovers go through a stage of high emotional reactivity that threatens to destroy their relationship.

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Being Your Own Partner | Thrive Global

It doesn't matter if you are alone or you find a romantic relationship or a partner as long as you love yourself and have self-respect.

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The Best Time to Get Help for Your Relationship | Psychology Today

Most couples wait too long to get help. Unnecessary suffering occurs in secrecy and isolation when you are too embarrassed to ask for assistance...

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How to Have a Better Relationship - Well Guides

Good relationships don’t happen overnight. They take commitment, compromise, forgiveness and most of all — effort. Here we offer the latest in relationship science, expert advice, fun quizzes and helpful tips to help you build a stronger bond with you

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You Share Everything With Your Bestie. Even Brain Waves

Scientists have made astonishing discoveries about the nature and evolution of friendship. Without it, humans suffer significant physical and emotional damage.

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When You Love Clutter and Your Partner Is a Minimalist

Living together is tough when one member of the relationship is a pack rat and the other hates having too much stuff.

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Marriage advice from experts who are married

We asked four couples in which both partners are relationship experts to share marriage advice based on what has worked best for them.

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Infidelity & the Future of Relationships: Ester Perel

Great Podcast about monogamy, infidelity, and relationships

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The One Daily Talk That Will Benefit Your Marriage

Changing your approach to an end-of-the-day talk can ensure to help both you and your partner unwind.

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You Don’t Have to Be Rich to Have an Emotionally Wealthy Marriage

Plus, five science-based ways to create a wealth of love and passion in your relationship.

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Four Rules for a Great Sex Talk with your Partner

How many times have you thought if you could just communicate about sex, it would get better, but instead talking seems to make it worse?

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Why Meaning May Be The Key To Making It In Marriage

Northwestern close relationships psychologist Eli Finkel on why meaning makes love last.

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Women's Sexuality: Come as You Are

“BEST OF” 2015 GoodReads Choice Awards, Top 5 Science and Technology Books Buzzfeed’s 17 Things that Changes Our Sex Lives in 2015 Book Riot’s Best of April 2015 and Best of…

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The Secret Reason That Sex Is So Good for Your Relationship

It’s almost a given that couples with good relationships are more likely to enjoy sex with each other. New research shows why sex has such a positive impact.

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6 Essential Traits of Healthy Intimate Relationships

Healthy relationships require effort -- and that's a large part of what makes them so rewarding.

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Is Your Relationship Codependent? What Exactly Does That Mean?

Like “self love” or “inner child,” the term “codependent” smacks of pop psychology psychobabble. To make matters worse, it’s become shorthand for a whole host of unhealthy behaviors. Bu

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Your choice of a life partner is no accident

Study uses DNA to discern people’s preferences in mates, and suggests how such choices shape our genomes

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Learn to Say No by Using 'Don’t' Instead of 'Can’t'

Whatever the temptation is, saying "I don't" can empower you to stay true to your goals.

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4 Things People In Good Relationships Understand

Not every relationship is built to last, but here are the 4 laws that every good relationship must have.

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Simple Truths About Sexual Attraction

Forget what you think you know: We may not actually realize who we are attracted to or why we are attracted to them.

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Psychology of Love: 10 Studies Every Lover Should Know

Tweet Share 0 Pocket Pinterest 0 LinkedIn 0 Email Psychology of love: Brain map of love, the role of kissing, how couples come to look similar, what kills a relationship and more… “Love does not consist in gazing at each

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The Power of Fantasy in a Relationship

Sexual fantasies can improve a relationship, new studies show; researchers add a caveat: It is best to fantasize about your partner.

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With #CoerciveControl, the #Abuse Is Psychological

Coercive control is a strategy that relies on manipulation, humiliation and isolation.

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The Challenges of Male Friendships

Consciously or otherwise, many men believe that talking about personal matters with other men is not manly.

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Can Tylenol Help Heal a Broken Heart?

When a neuroscience student gets dumped, she finds comfort (and an over-the-counter remedy) in her knowledge of the physiology of romantic rejection.

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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you’ll do the same to them.

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Relationship Tricks To Reignite That Honeymoon Phase Feeling

​Even in the best relationships things can get “rusty.” You might be bored, may start to take each other for granted, may be fighting (or not communicating at all). But this doesn't have to mean you're going to live unhappily ever after. Once you re

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6 Sneaky Thought Patterns Inhibiting Your Personal Growth

Understanding how you cognitively distort is key to breaking free of some of your most toxic mental traps.

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Navigating Relationships: A Multidimensional Perspective - Audio Interview

Dr. Eleanor dynamically combines the spiritual with the scientific in her life and work. After receiving her Ph.D. from the University of Chicago in 1971, Eleanor recognized her talents as psychic intuitive and began integrating spirituality and holistic

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How to Be a Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research

What Does Science Say About How To Be A Good Kisser? Regular readers might be saying “What the hell is this, Cosmo Magazine?” In all…

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When Friends Are 'Like Family'

The comfort of a close bond can sometimes morph into the restraints of bondage.

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13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

There are certain intimate and awkward topics couples should discuss before the wedding — unless you prefer to be surprised years later.

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A Slow-Motion Demise, a Fast-Forward Repair

As her own marriage crumbles, a sister plays matchmaker for her divorced younger brother.

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No. 37: Big Wedding or Small? - NYTimes.com

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The Simple Way to Strengthen and Protect Your Relationship

There is something quick and easy and powerful that could strengthen your relationship and help to protect it from turning into ash. It is something that can be done every day – many times during the day – and according to new research, it makes a rem

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Friendship Advice: When Your Best Friend Brings a Crowd

Some people prefer one-on-one time with a friend. They are ‘focusers’ and gravitate toward intimacy. ‘Diffusers’ like to socialize in a group and don’t feel the need for as much time alone.

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These 4 Relationship Styles Predict How Long Yours Will Last

This article was originally published on November 20, 2015. How do you act when you're in a relationship? A new study may know: It turns out we tend fall into one of four major relationship styles. And those patterns may have a lot to do with how lon

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The Secret to Having a Good but Difficult Conversation

How to successfully engage someone when the conversation is uncomfortable

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When three threatens two: Sex and the transition to parenthood - Esther Perel

The transition from two to three is one of the most profound challenges a couple will ever face. It takes...

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7 Factors Affecting Orgasm in Women

Approximately 25% of women have difficulty ever achieving orgasm. Read about the psychological (and physical) factors that affect women's sexuality.

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Fear of Intimacy: Understanding Why People Fear Intimacy

Understanding the fear of intimacy, where it comes from and how it affects our romantic relationships, can help us overcome this fear.

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#Love #Advice After 32 Years of #Marriage

My parents may be at fault for me romanticizing love. Last week, they celebrated their 32nd anniversary. Because sadly, that is much different than the modern love story of today, I asked them, separately how they've made it work this long.

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Cultivating Desire in Couples - Esther Perel

America, in matters of sex as in much else, seems to be a goal-oriented society that prefers explicit meanings, candor,...

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6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal

Men and women are raised to objectify each other and to objectify their relationships.

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Elements of Love by Ofer Zur, Ph.D., offered by Zur Institute

The Basics-Love 101; The Lover's Personal Investments; The Community of Care-Love 202; Sexuality-Love 1-on-1; Beyond the Essentials-Love 1000+.

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The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain de

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16 Questions That Can Revive Your Relationship

Looking back can make going forward easier and more meaningful.

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The Best Advice for Any Couple

Can you relate?