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Yes, You Should Have a 'Fuck-Off Fund' in Case of Life, Relationship or Job Meltdowns

Over on The Billfold, a writer named Paulette Perhach published an excellent short piece about what she’s termed “financial self-defense” or, more euphoniously, a “Fuck Off Fund.” That is: the money you may need at any given moment to get away f

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      Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor in 6 Steps

      Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html You have been abused,...

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        The 2 Types of People to Eliminate From Your Life Forever

        They may be sipping coffee in the desk across from you, lurking in your corner of the classroom or occupying the home next door. In the most unfortunate of circumstances,

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          TED Talk Subtitles and Transcript: You're not at your best when you're stressed. In fact, your brain has evolved over millennia to release cortisol in stressful situations, inhibiting rational, logical thinking but potentially helping you survive,

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            7 TED Talks on remembering those we've lost

            The pain of personal loss, war and conflict is universal. These speakers share large and small ways to remember those lost even long after they're gone.

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                          How to make successful New Year’s resolutions

                          USC Dornsife’s John Monterosso has some ideas — and makes a case for rethinking well-intentioned resolutions that sap pleasure from your life.

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                                      Does body language help a TED Talk go viral? 5 nonverbal patterns from blockbuster talks

                                      All TED Talks are good. Why do only some go viral? Over the last year, a human behavior consultancy called Science of People set out to answer this question. To do so, says founder Vanessa Van Edwa...

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                                        9 Ways You’re Being Rude Without Realizing It

                                        If you're doing something that would prompt Stephanie Tanner to say

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                                          Why we all need to practice emotional first aid

                                          We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. Bu

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                                                  Here’s Where You Should Live Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

                                                  It can be argued that cities, like people, all hold distinctive personalities. To find which one best matches your own personality, take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and then check out which cit...

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                                                    Fault-Finding and Judging Others: A Missed Opportunity to Love

                                                    Written by Thubten Chodron  In order to stop pointing out others' faults, we have to work on our underlying mental habit of judging others. Even if we don't…

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                                                      7 Quotes To Remember When You're Surrounded By Negativity

                                                      Subscribe: We hear it time and time again, “stop caring about what other people think.” Well, most people agree that’s a lot easier said than done. The world is full of opportunities to compare ourselves to others, hoping they’ll a

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                                                        The Secret to How People Work Well Under Pressure

                                                        One thing hiring managers look for is the ability to handle high amounts of pressure. Here's the trick to pulling it off with grace.

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                                                              Why We Self-Sabotage Our Success

                                                              We self-handicap to protect our self-esteem in difficult tasks.

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                                                                Self-Sabotage and Your

                                                                As illogical as it might seem, your child self may be your saboteur.

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                                                                      How to Help a Grieving Friend: 11 Things to Do When You're Not Sure What to Do

                                                                      Above all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.

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                                                                        Brené Brown on Empathy

                                                                        What is the best way to ease someone's pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuin...

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                                                                          How not to say the wrong thing

                                                                          When Susan had breast cancer , we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel like having visitors, and she said so. Her colleague's res

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                                                                              7 'Positive Thinking' Mantras That Can Actually Cross the Line Into Gaslighting

                                                                              “Don't cry.” People reject others' feelings or lived experiences all the time – even when they think they're helping. If taken too far, it can cross into abuse. Are any of these phrases familiar to you?

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                                                                                Lady Gaga discovered how to be happy when she started saying one word a lot more often

                                                                                For someone who's achieved so much as quickly as Lady Gaga, she's also had some serious low...

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                                                                                  11 TED Talks to watch when you're stuck in a rut

                                                                                  We all feel stuck sometimes — whether it’s on a creative project, in a job where we feel like we’ve plateaued, or a mental state we just can’t seem to shake out of. These talks may help give you that jolt.

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                                                                                    4 Secrets of the Most Charismatic People

                                                                                    These 4 things are super easy to implement, but take practice to master.

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                                                                                      5 Brilliant TED Talks That Will Boost Your Emotional Intelligence

                                                                                      These talks will inspire you to think differently about yourself and others.

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                                                                                        A dirty secret called grief

                                                                                        After her mother’s death, Kiran Sidhu found she was expected to ‘move on’ with such bewildering haste that her only option was to conceal her sorrow

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                                                                                              13 Ways to Tell Whether It's Love or Manipulation

                                                                                              When people are quick with praise, is it because they want something from you?

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                                                                                                    5 Myths About Burnout (and the Truth We Need to Understand)

                                                                                                    Misconceptions about the causes, the cure, and what it means can hold you back.

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                                                                                                      Why some of us don't have one true calling

                                                                                                      What do you want to be when you grow up? Well, if you're not sure you want to do just one thing for the rest of your life, you're not alone. In this illuminating talk, writer and artist Emilie Wapnick describes the kind of people she calls

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                                                                                                        When we’re Triggered: How to Stop Reacting Defensively.

                                                                                                        Just when I think I’m awake and really have it going on---ready to share my wisdom with others---life takes me to a new level of understanding.

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                                                                                                                  9 Signs You're Holding Yourself Back From Happiness + What To Do About It

                                                                                                                  We're all very well equipped with the knowledge and tools to manage our physical health. We know that our fitness will never improve if we ignore it, and we understand that the consequences of doing

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                                                                                                                            Does Your Bright Side Have a Dark Side?

                                                                                                                            Surprising new research on who we really want around when the going gets tough.

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                                                                                                                              3 Reasons Why People Badmouth Others (and Succeed)

                                                                                                                              Does the kinder, gentler approach work just as well?

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                                                                                                                                  How to Stop Worrying and Get on With Your Life

                                                                                                                                  An expert explains why worries spiral out of control, and how to stop them.

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                                                                                                                                    10 Techniques For Overcoming Speaker's Anxiety

                                                                                                                                    Tricks of the trade for dealing with stage freight or social anxiety

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                                                                                                                                      What Shit Are You Too Old For?

                                                                                                                                      At what age are you allowed to stop doing bullshit things you no longer feel like doing with the excuse “I’m too old for this shit”? I often wondered in my twenties when I could take advantage of this exciting turn of phrase used by older people eve

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                                                                                                                                            Stress And Anxiety Triggers By Each Zodiac Sign And How To Deal With It

                                                                                                                                            We all have our stress triggers, which set us off into panic. While some of us are control freaks and hope to be Superman and Superwoman like Taurus and Aries, others fear feeling unsafe like the sensitive Cancer or exposed like the private and dreamy Pi

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                                                                                                                                              How to speak so that people want to listen

                                                                                                                                              Have you ever felt like you're talking, but nobody is listening? Here's Julian Treasure to help. In this useful talk, the sound expert demonstrates the how-to's of powerful speaking — from some handy vocal exercises to tips on how to speak w

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                                                                                                                                                  4 Things to Do When Your Brain Is Tired

                                                                                                                                                  ... and how to keep it from getting that way in the first place.

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                                                                                                                                                            6 Ways to Get What You Want (Without Being Called a Whiner)

                                                                                                                                                            It's trickier than it seems, but research points to some promising strategies.

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                                                                                                                                                              8 Lessons We Can Learn From The Dalai Lama On His 80th Birthday

                                                                                                                                                              In his lifetime, His Holiness the Dalai Lama has become the quintessential example of what it means to live each day with the utmost compassion. He is able to look at the world -- and all of the indiv

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                                                                                                                                                                  11 Feng Shui Tips to Overcome Debt and Deficiency - OMTimes Magazine

                                                                                                                                                                  In Feng Shui, its all about the chi (life energy). If you want to overcome debt, you just need to shift the energy to the right places.

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                                                                                                                                                                    7 Feng Shui Tips to Stop Feeling Drained All the Time

                                                                                                                                                                    Fatigue is a common problem in our society, as people try to juggle the stresses of daily life. Here are a few Feng Shui tips to start feeling better.

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                                                                                                                                                                      5 Ways To Invite Love Into Your Home with Feng Shui

                                                                                                                                                                      Did you know that your home could be the thing that is stifling your love life? A redesign of your home using feng shui just might be the answer.

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                                                                                                                                                                        When people think of empathy, they tend to see it as a soft skill -- as a yielding and pleasing kind of behavior. They think: If you listen to me and agree with me and make me feel good, that's empathy. If you fix my problems and soothe everything, that's

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                                                                                                                                                                          The True Heart of Money

                                                                                                                                                                          Life In harmony with your money begins with your values.

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                                                                                                                                                                            Why Highly Sensitive People Attract Narcissists + How To Disengage

                                                                                                                                                                            In my work with clients and in hearing from readers, I've witnessed a pattern of highly sensitive people being in relationships with narcissists or sociopaths — and they're ready to break free from

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                                                                                                                                                                                  Feel Lost, Disconnected, No Passion or Purpose? You Are Expanding

                                                                                                                                                                                  For those of you have unexplained symptoms of physical or emotional pain, know that you are not alone. Feeling lost, disconnected, without…

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                                                                                                                                                                                      Ladies, Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

                                                                                                                                                                                      Just as one would never go into a marriage with the expectation of it leading down that bumpy road of divorce, the same applies to friendships. You go into friendship eager to forge what you hope will be a lifelong bond with that person upon whose shoulde

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                                                                                                                                                                                          The Vampire’s Bite: Victims of Narcissists Speak Out

                                                                                                                                                                                          How do narcissists' partners get their life sucked out of them?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                Who's the Emotional Vampire in Your Life?

                                                                                                                                                                                                Learn how to protect yourself from draining people in your life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  8 Ways to Handle a Narcissist

                                                                                                                                                                                                  How to keep your own emotions in check when dealing with difficult people.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        How to Make Yourself Do It When You Just Don't Want To

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Three strategies to help you stop putting things off.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          You Are (Probably) Wrong About You

                                                                                                                                                                                                          The truth is, we don't know ourselves nearly as well as we think we do

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            How to Get Out of the Rut of Self-Harming Thoughts and Feelings

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Every single one of us is guilty of treating ourselves poorly at some point during our lives. Unfortunately, some of us are…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                15 Ways to Get Someone out of Your Head

                                                                                                                                                                                                                Expert tips to manage your frustration and get past toxic thinking.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Living a Lie

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Fooling yourself can have devastating consequences, especially in the domains of money, career, sexual identity and relationships. Meet four people who fought their way to an authentic life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Sheryl Sandberg’s Heartbreaking Post About Grief Holds Lessons for Us All

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg posted an emotional note on the social media site on Wednesday, on what she's experienced while grieving her late husband Dave Goldberg.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              The Muddied Meaning of ‘Mindfulness’

                                                                                                                                                                                                                              If the word seems like a badge for the self-satisfied set, that’s because its true meaning has become obscured.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                How to Successfully Handle Aggressive and Controlling People

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                How to Successfully Deal with Aggressive, Intimidating, and Controlling People

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Avoid Procrastination: Funky Tip Makes You Start 4 Times Sooner - PsyBlog

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      This trick makes you feel closer to your future self so that you start four times sooner.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Books to help you answer big questions about yourself

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Why in the world did I do that? How can I do better? Chances are you've asked yourself these questions at least once today. To understand how your mind works and how you can improve your decision-m...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How not to say the wrong thing

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When Susan had breast cancer, we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Into the Light: 5 Steps to Find Your Way Through the Darkness

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                By Andrea Schulman Most of us will experience a low point in life, where we’ve become lost and have wandered off of…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  10 Questions To Finally Change Your Habits

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Stop fantasizing about how you're going to change. Ask yourself these questions, and make it happenwhatever your goals are.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      What You Learn in Your 40s

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      There are no soul mates. There are no grown-ups. It’s O.K. if you don’t like jazz.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Wisdom of Bruce Lee: 25 Quotes on Mastery, Martial Arts & Consciousness

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Bruce Lee was a phenomenon. When he emerged into stardom in the early 1970′s, the world was blown away. A martial artist…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          13 Things I've Learned From Being Married Three Times

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          In the end, we are all who we are. You own your life and you have no control over other people's opinions of your life. What you can control is how you allow that to affect you....

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Against Chill

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    “Chill” has become one of the most desirable qualities in a romantic partner. But it is a garbage virtue that will destr…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        An Unforgettable Zen Story About

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Here is my favorite Zen story about letting go and moving on.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          25 Life Changing Lessons to Learn from Paulo Coelho

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          By: Purpose Fairy “Life has a way of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen at once.” ~ Paulo Coelho

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Comfort Zone | May 2006 - The HSP Who Is Also A High Sensation Seeker

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              This article about High Sensation Seeking also includes the High Sensation Seeking Scale for HSPs.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Emotional Regulation and HSPs

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                HSPs are simply are more aware of negative feelings (all feelings, really). This article discusses ways HSPs can regulate tougher emotions.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Understanding the Highly Sensitive Person

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Extraverted HSPs face unique challenges.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Wound with No Name

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What lies behind chronic depression, anxiety, addiction, and other life-stoppers

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              5 ways to kill your dreams

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              All of us want to invent that game-changing product, launch that successful company, write that best-selling book. And yet so few of us actually do it. Brazilian entrepreneur Bel Pesce breaks down five easy-to-believe myths that ensure your dream projects

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Why We Procrastinate at Bedtime

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                ... and the challenge so many of us have convincing ourselves it's OK to sleep.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    9 Ways to Be Likable

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Whether you're the introvert that's quickly drained with obligatory conversations, or would never call yourself a

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          4 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You can fail at anything. Why not take a chance on doing what you love?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                How to Deal With Arrogant and Judgmental People | eHow

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                As long as people must interact with one another, inevitably they will come in contact with others who are difficult to get along with. Among the most annoying are those who are judgmental – stating unsolicited opinions about other people’s co

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  5 Lessons to Deal with Judgmental People - Lovepanky

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Are you having a hard time dealing with a judgmental person and their negativity? These experiences and 5 lessons can help change the way they affect you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    3 Reasons Why Being Overly Judgmental Hurts You More Than Anyone Else

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Being overly judgmental will only result in you holding yourself back and missing out on greater opportunities.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      A Dying Neurosurgeon's Exquisite Message To His Daughter

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Editor's note: This piece was originally published in Stanford Medicine magazine on February 23, 2015; Paul Kalanithi passed away on March 9, at age 37. Read Stanford Medicine's obituary for him here. By Paul Kalanithi In residency, there&rsquo...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          15 Things You Don't Owe Anyone (Even Though You Think You Do)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I know how much social pressure there is to conduct yourself a certain way. Some people they know what's best for you and the whole world. But remember...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            8 Ways To Spot Emotional Manipulation And How To Avoid It

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Having strong connections to the people in your life is a really important thing to do in order to live this human experience fully, but sometimes, we let

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              What I Wish More People Understood About Losing A Child

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Four and half years after the death of my oldest son, I finally went to a grief support group for parents who have lost children. I went to support a friend who recently lost her son. I'm not sure I

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Return to Your True Self with Feng Shui - OMTimes Magazine

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Feng Shui these three areas of your home to raise your confidence, achieve your goals and find fulfillment. By Ken Lauher

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    8 Ways to Stop Over-Thinking and Find Peace in the Present Moment

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak havoc on…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Take the Habit Personality Quiz

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      What’s your habit personality? Take a quiz to find out the factors that influence how you form habits, both good and bad.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        9 Ways We Set Ourselves Up To Be Controlled in Relationships

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Do you often feel like others are controlling? Or do you feel like the pressures of life are too much? Do you give your power away to others and feel helpless? If so, this post will shed light on how you might be setting yourself up to feel controlled...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Words to live by

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          These TED Talks offer beautiful, sweeping, simple life advice — the kind to tuck in the back of your mind and let inspire you onward.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            How to Coax an Aha!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Nine ways to lay the groundwork for a breakthrough by caralynn

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Emotions such as fear, anger, frustration, and immobility are energies. And you can potentially ‘catch’ these energies from people without realizing it. If you tend to be an emotional sponge, it’s vital to know how to avoid taking on an individual��

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    TED Talks to get you through your quarter-life crisis

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Yes, you're an adult now. But there's no need to panic! Take a deep breath and survive twenty-something burnout with the help of these talks.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      The case for emotional hygiene

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. Bu

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        5 Happiness Practices to Increase Levels of Joy

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        For most of us, these are not new ideas. They are simply habits we have failed to establish... until now. Make today a fresh start for you. Love yourself enough to realize you deserve a happy life filled with joy, gratitude, appreciation, and good he...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If Disney Princesses Realized They Could Save Themselves

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Aladdin saving Princess Jasmine from the evil clutches of Jafar; a prince smooching Snow White, reviving her from her eternal sleep; Prince Charming rescuing Cinderella from her nasty stepfamily: the Disney princess narrative of a damsel in distress ...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Are You an Empathizer or an Instigator?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. — George Bernard Shaw Statistically, about 50 percent of all people are Empathizer communicators and 50 percent are Instigators. Neither type is better or worse,...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              8 TED Talks to watch before public speaking

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              If you’ve got a presentation to give at work or school — or are perhaps getting ready to speak at a TEDx event? — we recommend these talks to help get you pumped up.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                The Compassion Experience: Vista, CA

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                An immersive event from Compassion International coming to Vista, CA Feb. 10-13. Journey into daily life in a developing country. Click to register.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Compassion and the true meaning of empathy

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Compassion and the true meaning of empathy

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Compassion and the true meaning of empathy

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What to do When The Going Gets Rough - Lion's Roar

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Pema Chödrön on four ways to hold our minds steady and hearts open when facing difficult people or circumstances.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Dare to disagree

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Most people instinctively avoid conflict, but as Margaret Heffernan shows us, good disagreement is central to progress. She illustrates (sometimes counterintuitively) how the best partners aren’t echo chambers -- and how great research teams, relationsh

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            10 Things No One Tells Women about Turning 40

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            1. You will get laugh lines on your face but you don’t care because all that means is that you laugh a lot which is the …

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                How to Stop Worrying and Get on With Your Life

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                An expert explains why worries spiral out of control, and how to stop them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  10 Surprising Facts About Failure

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  It's not whether you fail, or why, that matters, but how you react to it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    What Your Personality Has to Do With Your Neighborhood

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Extroverts are more likely to be drawn to a city's center, for example.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Rejection: A Loser's Guide

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Physiologically, neurologically, anthropologically speaking rejections sucks!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          7 Negative Behaviors You Need to Ignore

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” – Proverbs 4:23 Develop your inner strength by ignoring these 7 behaviors, while doing...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Two Personal Qualities More Vital To Success Than IQ That Most People Don’t Know — PsyBlog

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Here are two trainable personal qualities which predict success four times more than intelligence.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  The psychology of time

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Psychologist Philip Zimbardo says happiness and success are rooted in a trait most of us disregard: the way we orient toward the past, present and future. He suggests we calibrate our outlook on time as a first step to improving our lives.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    What This Classic Pessimist Can Teach Us All About Happiness

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    In the same way being poor teaches us to appreciate wealth, having our hearts broken teaches us to love faithfully, struggle and failure magnifies our victories -- Eeyore's melancholy in a subtle way highlights the joys in life....

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      7 Strategies to Transform a Broken Heart - OMTimes

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      When we suffer a deep loss or trauma our broken hearts can literally feel that they have been shattered into a million pieces.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Let It Go!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday. Here's how.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          5 Ways to Effectively Deal With Criticism

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you live to serve others to avoid criticism -doing what makes them happy- you will become very unhappy. Heres 5 Ways to Effectively deal with Criticism:

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